When the Going Gets Tough….
What do you do when you feel discouraged? In the past I know I would take this as a sign that “oh that’s just not the right thing for me” or “I just can’t do it” and I’d give up. And then I’d start feeling bad about myself. I wasn’t brought up to have faith […]
The Secret to Handling Rejection
When we feel rejected by others, it can trigger some of our deepest feelings of abandonment, sadness, hurt and shame. When we feel rejected by others, we barely take pause before we head down self-rejection alley. This is a sad, anxiety provoking and depressing place to be, it can be very damaging to your self […]
5 Tips to Keep Mums Sane
Being a mum is without doubt one of the hardest jobs, and in this age of the “have it all woman” the pressure and drive for perfection is crazy. You’ve got to raise kids (a full time job on it’s own), pursue a career, be an organisational guru, take care of household chores, answer to […]
Why being overly caring can be dangerous
As women (and less often men) we are brought up to be kind and caring. It makes sense right? It goes with the role of a mother we may one day become. We’re taught to put others first – putting ourselves last is often considered something to feel proud of. Don’t ask for too much […]
How to Spot & Stop Negative Thinking with CBT (Part 1)
Thoughts. Everyone has them. As we go about our days we’ve got a constant stream of thoughts running through our heads. Some thoughts are helpful – helping us to focus, achieve our goals, helping us to feel confident and connected in our relationships – while other thoughts bring us down, making us second guess ourselves, […]
How to Spot & Stop Negative Thinking with CBT (Part 2)
Read Part 1 of this article. Here’s the 11 negative thinking patterns that can trip you up. An important thing to be aware of is that unhealthy or negative thinking patterns are actually thinking errors that give us a distorted view of reality. They do not offer an accurate, factual or balanced view of reality. […]
Your practical guide to beating depression – from someone who’s been there.
If you’ve googled how to beat depression, chances are you’ve come across some good suggestions – eat a healthy diet, exercise, manage your sleep well, keep routines, take omega 3’s, manage stress etc. etc. If you’re experiencing low grade depression and functioning pretty well in daily life this is helpful advice. For many people though, […]
8 signs you’re in an Unhealthy Relationship
If you’re in a relationship that leaves you feeling bad about yourself frequently, that’s a red flag that says it’s time to take a closer look at what’s going on. From an outsiders perspective it may seem obvious, but when you’re the one in an unhealthy and controlling relationship it’s often hard to see the […]
When you feel stuck, there’s hope!
They say the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result – yet many of us do this unconsciously in our relationships. We keep having the same old arguments, repeating the same old patterns that deprive us from the closeness, support and respect we deserve in our […]
Feeling bored? 8 ways to keep your relationship alive!
When we’re young and in love, or in the early days of dating we make a real effort – we go out on more dates, we may travel, try new things with our partner and we’re really quite creative in how we spend time together. If you’re not into cooking for example, you may still […]