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Tamsyn Harker, Flow Life Coaching & Counselling, Lower Hutt

Tamsyn Harker

Specializing in Relationship Counselling and Couple's Therapy


"Words cannot describe the impact that Tamsyn has had on my life. Her thoughtful, kind and humorous approach has helped me to make small yet powerful shifts in my thinking."

Lisa Preston

"My partner and I started seeing Tamsyn to work through a collapse in our communication. Tamsyn has been amazing at creating a safe space for us to talk through the prickly bits, she’s incredibly knowledgeable and has efficiently paved a pathway & provided helpful tools for us to find a way back onto the same page! We very quickly warmed to Tamsyn because of her warmth, empathy and great sense of humour! Would definitely recommend her for couples and individuals."

Tom Coppell

"So pleased to have taken the leap to reach out to Tamsyn to talk through a number of issues impacting my life. Tamsyn is extremely welcoming and understanding, and has provided me with lots of practical advice in relation to specific situations, as well as more holistic advice on general wellbeing and happiness. A great person to bounce ideas off of or simply vent about whatever's on your mind, I'd recommend Tamsyn to anyone facing challenges in their life."

Richard H

"Tamsyn is amazing! My partner and I have had a few sessions with her now and we really can’t thank her enough. She is the perfect balance of relatable, approachable, empathetic and professional! We always walk out of each session learning something new and effective for our relationship and ourselves. We have seen so much growth within each other and our relationship, couldn’t recommend Tamsyn and her services enough to anybody!"

Mikaela Collier

"Tamsyn is a insightful and compassionate communicator and life coach. She did an awesome job helping me work through some strategic life decision making. I highly recommended her to anyone wanting to make a positive change in their lives."

Fergus Roache

"I love my talks with Tamsyn. She is always professional but most importantly warm and welcoming which makes opening up so much easier for someone like me who struggles with communication sometimes. Definitely recommend!"

Courtney Scott

Here at Flow Life Coaching & Counselling we’re all about helping clients make real, lasting change.

I’m passionate about helping couples reconnect and build confidence in themselves and their futures. Whatever is going on in your relationship we can work on unpacking the negatives and rebuilding the positives. Common relationship challenges include:

  • can’t communicate with each other 

  • feel like “flat-mates” – lost the spark

  • need tools to get through conflict

  • not able to get past painful experiences 

  • there’s been an affair/infidelity

  • going through a breakup

See more about relationship counselling here.

My Background

I’ve long been fascinated by human behaviour and success, mental health, communication and learning how we can flourish. In my previous career as a business coach I loved helping my clients’ businesses succeed, but it was seeing their personal transformations as we worked together that was the most rewarding.

This led me to study transformative life coaching (an ‘inside-out’ approach for active, lasting change) and earn an ICF-accredited Certificate in Life Coaching, as well as a Diploma in Counselling and Psychology. I’ve found a multi-disciplinary approach the most beneficial for my clients – different tools suit different people, and situations. To support this I’ve also studied Cognitive Behavioural Therapy under its founders (Aaron and Judith Beck of the Beck Institute) and Emotionally-Focused Therapy under its founder Sue Johnston. 

Outside of my work at Flow I’m assisting a neuroscientist to develop an industry-leading resilience and mental health support program, I continue professional development and bake mediocre cakes!

How I work

I provide a mediated space to help you communicate and better understand each other and yourselves. Our sessions focus on gaining new perspective, building new futures and learning communication skills that will serve you for the rest of your lives.

We work together to uncover obstacles, discover strengths, create action plans, and utilise techniques for real change.

Time and again I’ve seen and experienced the importance of the relationship between therapist and client to make the best difference for them.  I offer an environment and discussion that is trust-based, positive and human – professionalism in this work doesn’t have to be awkward or impersonal!

Ready to get started?

I work via phone, online (Zoom) and in person at our office suite.  You can book online or get in touch with any questions.  I look forward to helping you live the life you want!

Not sure about taking the step & trying therapy?

See more 5 star reviews on Google to hear from past clients.

If you are a guy and not sure if this is for you, check out our FAQ about counselling for men.