"Tamsyn is absolutely incredible, if I could give her 6 stars I would! My partner and I did couples therapy with her and she completely changed our relationship for the better. She is so personable and made both of us super comfortable and heard. We've never done couple therapy before and we weren't sure what to expect but with Tamsyn's help we went from almost breaking up to being happier than ever! I truly can't rate her highly enough and I tell all my friends in relationships that I wish we had done this years ago!"
Tamsyn Harker
Specializing in Relationship Counselling and Couple's Coaching
Testimonials
"My partner and I started seeing Tamsyn to work through a collapse in our communication. Tamsyn has been amazing at creating a safe space for us to talk through the prickly bits, she’s incredibly knowledgeable and has efficiently paved a pathway & provided helpful tools for us to find a way back onto the same page! We very quickly warmed to Tamsyn because of her warmth, empathy and great sense of humour! Would definitely recommend her for couples and individuals."
Tom Coppell
"Both my husband and I have found working with Tamsyn to be very helpful. Her gentle, incredibly friendly approach allows us to feel safe and comfortable while her knowledge and experience has quickly guided us towards results."
A Taumaoe
"Tamsyn is amazing! My partner and I have had a few sessions with her now and we really can’t thank her enough. She is the perfect balance of relatable, approachable, empathetic and professional! We always walk out of each session learning something new and effective for our relationship and ourselves. We have seen so much growth within each other and our relationship, couldn’t recommend Tamsyn and her services enough to anybody!"
Mikaela Collier
"My husband and I are very grateful to have found Tamsyn. We hit a road block from a major life event in our +15 year gay relationship/marriage. Tamsyn gained a quick understanding of the situation and of who we are - both as individuals and as a couple. This made understanding her insights and advice naturally easy. She gave us a range of tools, wisdom, kindness and humour. She helped us learn from our past, grow as individuals and re-establish our strong bond as a couple. We especially recommend her to others of the LGBTQIA+ community looking for someone who will understand you and/or the complexities that can come with LGBTQIA+ relationships."
A & P in Lower Hutt
Here at Flow Life Coaching & Counselling we’re all about helping clients make real, lasting change.
I’m passionate about helping couples reconnect and build confidence in themselves and their futures. Whatever is going on in your relationship we can work on unpacking the negatives and rebuilding the positives.
Common relationship challenges I work with include:
communication break downs
lacking tools for healthy conflict
feeling like “flat-mates” – lost the spark
getting stuck on past painful experiences
affairs/infidelity
Don’t leave it too late! See more about relationship counselling here.
My Background
I’ve long been fascinated by human experience, relationships, communication and learning how we can flourish. This led me to study transformative life coaching (an ‘inside-out’ approach for active, lasting change) and earn an ICF-accredited Certificate in Life Coaching, as well as a Diploma in Counselling and Psychology. I’ve found a multi-disciplinary approach the most beneficial for my clients – different tools suit different people, and situations. The combination of counselling and coaching approaches was once well described as “archaeology and architecture”, and I think that’s a great description of the work I do with my clients to understand and unpick the negatives, and actively build up the positive tools and experiences.
To support this work I’ve also studied directly through the founders of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (the Beck Institute), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (Dr Sue Johnston), and Gottman Method Couples Therapy (the Gottman Institute) gaining a level 1 certificate in this industry-leading modality.
How I work
I provide a mediated space to help you communicate and better understand each other and yourselves. Our sessions focus on gaining new perspective, building new futures and learning communication and conflict skills that will serve you for the rest of your lives.
We work together to uncover obstacles, discover strengths, create action plans, and utilise techniques for real change.
I also understand that it can be daunting to try out couple’s counselling and coaching, and I have huge respect for all my clients who reach out and give this a go. I offer an environment and discussion that is trust-based, positive and human – professionalism in this work doesn’t have to be awkward or impersonal! Take a look at some more of my testimonials and reviews to get an idea of what it’s like to work with me.
Ready to get started?
I work in person from my Lower Hutt, Wellington office, and online (via Zoom). You can book online or get in touch with any questions. I look forward to helping you live the life you want!
Not sure about taking the step & trying therapy?
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If you are a guy and not sure if this is for you, check out our FAQ about counselling for men!